Is Marriage worth it?

Mark 10:6-9
 For from the very first he made man and woman to be joined together permanently in marriage; therefore a man is to leave his father and mother, 8 and he and his wife are united so that they are no longer two, but one. 9 And no man may separate what God has joined together."
Marriage happens to be like my favorite pursuit and subject in the Kingdom of God!  It might be that I have so much to learn or that my wife after 13 years marriage still at times can be a mystery to me!  I find it compelling how Christ refers to us as His bride and the correlation He makes between marriage and (my other passion) His church (people!) not a stupid building!  Marriage is a thing of loose interpretation in today's culture.  Many are worried about what will happen with the constitution of marriage in politics. I will not talk on these things because they are really a manifestation of the breakdown of marriage in the body of Christ!
As a young man just born again and looking at life through a new perspective and trying to follow Christ in obedience daily, I would observe marriages in the Body of Christ. (sounds like me still today)!  I begin to realize that true Godly marriages were lacking!  Very few men then and today lead there homes well.  You say how can i make such a statement?  I say open your eyes and look, open ears and listen, all you have to do is see how husbands treat there wives and children and what kind of men they are.  Its as if we live in the dark ages and fear a strong woman and have sold out to entertainment over training children!  As goes the marriage so goes the family, church, and the world. So should we hold a sign and boycott Disney because of gay day! or should we dare to lead or homes with conviction, passion, and purpose?  You tell me what will make a real change!
I am in no way a perfect husband and father!  All you have to do is ask my wife and kids, but they will tell you also of my passion for GOD and how i lead the home with purpose and priorities!  All we have to do is look at a woman and listen to her speak and we can tell what kind of husband she has by her actions.  If she is insecure her husband doesn't validate her.  If she struggles with her beauty, her husband doesn't find her captivating!  If she is ill tempered to others, her husband doesn't know how to respond gently to her emotions, if she is emotionally religious(spooky spiritual), her husband is not a spiritual leader in the house, if she is exhausted and stressed from raising children, her husband in not a dad to there kids!!!  Yes these are God almighty statements and if they bother us its because our pride as a man says, "who is he to tell me?".  I would then say that is exactly why we are in our mess and may the Holy Spirit change your heart to hear the voice of our Daddy!  We sholdn't put all the blame on men or women for this but our spiritual leaders!  All you have to do is look at church in recent history to see our error in marriage! I know that no one trained them and so goes the curse!  Yet its time that Real Men rise up and say "AS FOR ME AND MY HOUSE WE WILL SERVE THE LORD"!  Guys God gave you a pair for a reason so use use them to lead your home.  Its time for the Kingdom of God to put a zeal in us for the things that are a zeal in Gods heart!  We want revival in the church, how about revival in a passion for the institute of marriage!  The next few questions are in no way to say I've got it figured out but questions I believe need to be asked? When was the last time you heard your pastor talk about the value of sex in marriage?  When does he validate his wife from the pulpit?  When does he use his own stories to equip you and others to do the same?  Can he say follow me for I follow Christ and you want his marriage and his children?  If you were to die would you want him to be in charge of your kids and father them?  Does His wife radiate the joy of th Lord or the bitterness of ministry?  Would you want a marriage like his?  Just some questions I know because of political correctness we should never ask, but to hell with political correctness!  We should ask ourself these questions and if you are a leader you still should be asking yourself some of the same questions!

Just bringing it REAL, N8
*** I write and don't edit so forgive me for not being a good writer but a better preacher!

Todays meditation

1 Timothy 1:8-17
Paul says - that the law is not made for a righteous person,....
I find it interesting that we as Christians put laws and rules on each other for all sorts of things from what we wear, to what we watch, to how we worship God, Etc.......(the list of judgments and rules go on and on) I know I need rules when My time with my daddy is limited or done being busy in the name of MINISTRY!  The first thing to go is my attitude which then leaves honor for other and righteous judgments up to my discretion. I find it funny or sad that leadership has put itself up in a high and lofty meeting to execute rules on others with out relationship?  It is of no wonder people have a bad view of what Christianity looks like, I understand others will always persecute, but I ask how much is persecution and not right connection in relationship with Him!  Lets face it we are all down right jerks at times!  I need relationship with God and then others to help me become what God has called me to become.  How can I as a leader or anyone legislate "christianity" apart from relationship.  Its sad we are teaching others under us to put people under laws and rules without ever hearing or knowing there heart! I recently had to deal with a situation that I could have destroyed two peoples lives if I just choose to deal with it according to how I have seen it done or hold them accountable to the rules. Yet I understand there is a greater law it is called "RELATIONSHIP"!!!  I am by know means perfect at this but just royally ticked off at how others and myself  have been treated by those relation-less leaders casting rules!  I told everyone around me I want to do what Jesus did and that is glorify the father not the judge, do only what the father is doing not the judge. Chruch is about FAMILY and not a little club we have turned it into!  What Christian leader in there right mind can make a decision without first hearing out the party being tried or forgot or ETC... just put your situation in there! Why can't we talk about the sacred cows or the elephant in the room! EVERYONE knows its there yet if you say something you will be from the devil!  Lets let relationship and fathering be our tool for judgement, dare to hear someones heart and then have balls enough to stick with them and love on them!  We are not to make laws or rules they are for the sinners not the church!  We are to make spiritual families and glorify the FATHER!  If this makes you mad, I say good!  I dare to push buttons to see leaders do relationship right!  We all got issues because of people like us and and need people like us who hear God and listen to what He says to walk them out with.  Just some thoughts I had that God told me he was mad at as well.  He loves His kids and wants to get to know them not just give the laws to live by!