Is Marriage worth it?

Mark 10:6-9
 For from the very first he made man and woman to be joined together permanently in marriage; therefore a man is to leave his father and mother, 8 and he and his wife are united so that they are no longer two, but one. 9 And no man may separate what God has joined together."
Marriage happens to be like my favorite pursuit and subject in the Kingdom of God!  It might be that I have so much to learn or that my wife after 13 years marriage still at times can be a mystery to me!  I find it compelling how Christ refers to us as His bride and the correlation He makes between marriage and (my other passion) His church (people!) not a stupid building!  Marriage is a thing of loose interpretation in today's culture.  Many are worried about what will happen with the constitution of marriage in politics. I will not talk on these things because they are really a manifestation of the breakdown of marriage in the body of Christ!
As a young man just born again and looking at life through a new perspective and trying to follow Christ in obedience daily, I would observe marriages in the Body of Christ. (sounds like me still today)!  I begin to realize that true Godly marriages were lacking!  Very few men then and today lead there homes well.  You say how can i make such a statement?  I say open your eyes and look, open ears and listen, all you have to do is see how husbands treat there wives and children and what kind of men they are.  Its as if we live in the dark ages and fear a strong woman and have sold out to entertainment over training children!  As goes the marriage so goes the family, church, and the world. So should we hold a sign and boycott Disney because of gay day! or should we dare to lead or homes with conviction, passion, and purpose?  You tell me what will make a real change!
I am in no way a perfect husband and father!  All you have to do is ask my wife and kids, but they will tell you also of my passion for GOD and how i lead the home with purpose and priorities!  All we have to do is look at a woman and listen to her speak and we can tell what kind of husband she has by her actions.  If she is insecure her husband doesn't validate her.  If she struggles with her beauty, her husband doesn't find her captivating!  If she is ill tempered to others, her husband doesn't know how to respond gently to her emotions, if she is emotionally religious(spooky spiritual), her husband is not a spiritual leader in the house, if she is exhausted and stressed from raising children, her husband in not a dad to there kids!!!  Yes these are God almighty statements and if they bother us its because our pride as a man says, "who is he to tell me?".  I would then say that is exactly why we are in our mess and may the Holy Spirit change your heart to hear the voice of our Daddy!  We sholdn't put all the blame on men or women for this but our spiritual leaders!  All you have to do is look at church in recent history to see our error in marriage! I know that no one trained them and so goes the curse!  Yet its time that Real Men rise up and say "AS FOR ME AND MY HOUSE WE WILL SERVE THE LORD"!  Guys God gave you a pair for a reason so use use them to lead your home.  Its time for the Kingdom of God to put a zeal in us for the things that are a zeal in Gods heart!  We want revival in the church, how about revival in a passion for the institute of marriage!  The next few questions are in no way to say I've got it figured out but questions I believe need to be asked? When was the last time you heard your pastor talk about the value of sex in marriage?  When does he validate his wife from the pulpit?  When does he use his own stories to equip you and others to do the same?  Can he say follow me for I follow Christ and you want his marriage and his children?  If you were to die would you want him to be in charge of your kids and father them?  Does His wife radiate the joy of th Lord or the bitterness of ministry?  Would you want a marriage like his?  Just some questions I know because of political correctness we should never ask, but to hell with political correctness!  We should ask ourself these questions and if you are a leader you still should be asking yourself some of the same questions!

Just bringing it REAL, N8
*** I write and don't edit so forgive me for not being a good writer but a better preacher!